Wednesday, August 20, 2014

little suggestions on HOW TO TALK TO YOUR DAUGHTER BAOUT HER BODY


This is a major concern to me as I am a mother to two daughters and it can be hard with positive body image considering how much the media and literature portrays body image perfection is to be slim and slender. But everyone is different and we all need to embrace each and every individual. The most important body image is to be healthy and happy. Don't you think?

Tips on how to talk to your daughter about her body:

Don’t talk to your daughter about her body except to teach her how it works.

Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight. If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:“You look so healthy!” is a great one, or how about, “you’re looking so strong.” “I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.

”Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one. Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards herself.

Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and sometimes that’s a good thing.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey or netball or basketball because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.

Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale and how to bake chocolate cake made with half a block of butter.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilise her fantastic mind and beautiful soul.

    Thank you Hope Avenue | Image - The Glow

    a gentle reminder to FIT YOUR BRA


    These tips are vital for a perfect fit bra every time. Remember to adjust your bra straps. My daughters come to me every now and again for me to adjust their bras.


    Follow these tips to keep the fit perfect...

    - Tighten the straps so they fit snugly on your shoulders.

    - Make individual adjustments for each cup. It is common you may find one strap more tight than the other.

    - Look in the mirror to make sure the bra fits smoothly and your breasts are inside the cups. Your bra straps should lie flat against your body.

    - Baggy cups are a sure way of letting you know that you have the wrong size. Try going down a cup size. If your cups are creasing around the nipple the you need to try going down a back size to pull the fabric taut.

    - The main support from the bra is the band, so make sure that you are wearing the right band size. If the band size is too big then the straps will take the weight and dig in causing discomfort.


    - Spilling over the top or sides of your bra does not make your breasts look bigger. Try the next size up for a better fit.

    - Look in the mirror to make sure the bra fits smoothly and it is all the same level all the way around. If the bra is riding up you will probably need a smaller band size. 

    - Your bra band should feel tight and firm with enough space to insert two fingers under the back band and one under the front at the centre. 

    - Fasten a new bra on the loosest hook as a bra band can grow due to wash and wear. When you buy a bra make sure that it fits properly on the loosest hook as you may need to tighten with wear.

    - Make sure the underwire is sitting flat against your body and not digging in.

    - To make sure the bra fits properly with the right shape try it under a fitted t-shirt. Look at yourself from all angles and make sure you have an uplifted look with no bulging.

    Nikki over at Styling You has fabulous tips for your bra fitting today as well. 

    Linking up with Kimba Likes for Wardrobe Wednesday

    Tuesday, August 19, 2014

    3 ways to BOOST YOUR MOOD


    Here are 3 ways to help you change your lift your spirits:

    Go to the kitchen and cook - The simple act of organising, preparing and creating a delicious home cooked meal can help neutralise a negative mind.

    Retail therapy - Purchase an experience like a concert or a holiday rather than material items which tend to build up over time.

    Let the sunshine in - Morning sunlight is known to help place you in a better mood. Try eating breakfast near a window or outside in the sunshine and let the suns rays lift your spirit.

    4 steps to turn FEAR INTO POWER


    We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt



    Indulge in self-reflection and positive self-talk.
    Next time you feel nervous, anxious, afraid, or uncertain, I challenge you to dig deep and look what’s underneath those feelings.
    Are you nervous to apply for that job because you’re afraid of rejection? What if you don’t get the job? Does that mean you’re not good enough and that you’ll never experience the career success you long for?
    Of course this isn’t true, but it’s far too common to indulge in harmful self-talk. In most cases, it comes down to thinking that you’re not worthy to experience happiness or success.
    Be honest with yourself and identify what’s at the root of your fear.
    Now take that negative statement and write an empowering statement that’s the opposite of your limiting belief.
    For example, if your limiting belief is “I don’t deserve to experience true success because I haven’t worked hard enough,” flip it and write the reverse:
    “I deserve to experience success on my own terms, all while having fun and living in abundance along the way!”
    Say this affirmation out loud every morning when you’re getting ready to start your day.
    Better yet, look yourself in the mirror and repeat it proudly, 10 times!
    Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free. ~ Jim Morrison


    Weigh your options.

    Make a pros and cons list of what would happen if:
    • You pursued your passions and vision, despite your fear
    • You choose to maintain status quo
    I’m guessing you’ll realise that there are actually more pros to acting in the face of fear vs. maintaining status quo.
    Act.
    The arrows are pointing in the right direction. Yes, you can act in the face of fear without the whole world crashing down on you.

    The next step is to actually do it.
    Take that very first step in the positive direction. Yes, the first step is often the hardest. Remember to take one step at a time.
    I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. ~ Nelson Mandela

    Celebrate
    Give yourself a pat on the back for facing your fears and celebrate your successes (no matter how big or small) along the way.

    This will feed your positive momentum and will keep the good stuff coming your way!

    Tiny Buddha | Joining in with #ibot

    Monday, August 18, 2014

    introducing MILK & IVY CHILDREN'S BOUTIQUE



    Did you all know that I am trying to get a little business up and running?

    I am the proud owner of Milk & Ivy. An online children's boutique which sells new and preloved styles for your girl. You will find that the preloved items will be near new or never worn unless stated otherwise. 

    There are gorgeous little dresses for the princess in your life as well as a few items for boys.

    If you like us on facebook you will be updated with daily specials and whats new. You can also shop online at here.




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